In my church program, I had a kid throwing a fit tonight after I announced we were going to play a game he did not want to play. I had him sit aside while giving directions to the rest of the group. Then, I decided to start a behavior plan with him. A behavior plan with a kid is:
1. Name the Problem: In this case I named it– “Sometimes we have to do things that we don’t want to do”
2. Possible Solutions
3. Choose the best solution in this situation to fix the problem.
However, once I got to the possible solutions part, the kid decided that he would just play the game. He found the solution that worked best for him and in fact he enjoyed the game. This whole process took less than 1 minute.
I can not prevent meltdowns. I can not prevent all disruptive behavior. However, I can help kids and groups work through it. And yes, sometimes kids have to learn how to make really hard choices as young ages.